I was watching MTv the other day. Yes I do watch it from time to time and I will get to which shows I watch in another post. Any way while I am watching it a commercial comes on with PINK.
This is not an exact quote because I can’t find a youtube video of it, but she say. When I was in High School being a slut made you a loser. Now if you are not a slut then you are the loser.
PINK was dead on with that one. I have found it very odd in doing youth ministry how much things have changed since the good old 1990’s. Back then things were pretty simple. There was pressure to have sex…sure, but if you were one of the ones who was always looking for it people called you a slut and you became an outcast. In the schools now you have to go much further in your “experimentation” to be labeled a slut.
I think this was evident at the MTv VMA’s with the jonas brothers and others getting grief for thier promise rings. It just is not cool any more to wait for marriage.
So what is the deal? Why is this becoming such an epidemic even among professed Christians?
There is an increased amount of Christians who while dating or engaged, since they know “this” is the one, they think it’s ok to have sex. They have the Bible and know what God says about it, but they think what they are doing is just fine.
There are thousands of reasons why non-biblically, disease, STD, pregnancy, emotional damage, ruining your wedding night, etc etc. The bible says that when two people have sex they become one, emotionally and physically. Anybody who has had sex knows it is much deeper than just physical. God knew this when he created it and that’s why He designed it for within a marriage.
There isn’t much I can say for those who are not Christians on the matter because honestly sex is great so I understand the temptation.
I just want to talk about Christians here.
If you are a teenager who is a Christian and you are having sex and you are not married. You are not honoring yourself, your future husband/wife, your current partner, or God.
The bible says in 1 Timothy 4:12
Let no one look down on your youthfulness, but rather in speech, conduct, love, faith and purity, show yourself an example of those who believe.
I think this verse is huge and often the last part is left out. Most youth people use it to say…Hey you are young, but you can still do stuff great for God. Yes that is true, but there is more. It is saying..You are young, but as a Christian you have responsibilities to God and yourself.
Use your tongue for good, Love others, have faith in your God, and be committed to purity of mind and body. Do all of that so you can be an example to others who don’t believe in God.
I’m hoping we can break the culture of if it feels good do it. The truth is though that changing that mindset takes prayer and action. Prayer from the leaders, the church, and parents. Action from the youth to be an example and to hold each other accountable.
I’m praying for my youth…are you?